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Your
Spouse: "For
Men Only"
There are many women skippers out
there, but it has
been my observation that, in most cases of family recreational
boating, the man does most of the boating stuff (or at least
wants to do most of the boating stuff, so this is written from
that point of view).
Boating with your spouse or girlfriend can be
wonderful.
At the same time, we have all heard of and, sometimes,
witnessed
horrible scenes at the launch ramp. (We have never
had such a
scene in my family because my wife is too considerate--if she
ever took an exception to something I did at the dock or ramp,
she did so in private!)
Here are some do's and don'ts that can help
make boating
with your wife or girlfriend much more fun than
boating with a
bunch of sweaty, belching fishing buddies--much more
fun.
Much, much more more fun. Some
come from my own
experience, some from watching and talking with others.
You wife or girlfriend is not your crew. Don't
treat her that
way. If you're doing a tricky docking maneuver, for
example,
explain what the heck you are doing, what you want her to do, and
why you want her to do it. Before
you start.
Get her to come to class with you if at all possible.
If not,
encourage her to take the class for herself. If she can't or
won't, be ready to explain stuff, sometimes several times over.
Remember, us guys usually won't admit we don't understand
something, especially if it has something to do with vehicles; it
just ain't macho. Women have no such inhibition.
Remember, also, that most of us guys have grown up
around
vehicles, watched navy movies on television, and maybe read
a few
pirate novels. We start off, in most cases, knowing
more than
our wives or girlfriends about things that move. And we think we
know more than we do.
Our wives are going to ask
questions that expose our ignorance. Get used to it. Take
charge
and admit when you are confused before she starts
asking
questions.
If you are a trailer boater, take especial heed to these
warnings at the ramp. You're not going to impress
anyone by
showing off, least of all you wife. Heck, she already knows
the
worst about you; don't add to it with macho posturing.
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